The Ex Factor: What Taylor Swift and Demi Moore Have In Common

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January 31, 2012 more

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Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher. Photo: Marcel Thomas/FilmMagic

By Charly Emery

2011 served up some serious heartbreak for a multitude of our favorite celebrities.  Off the court, Tony Parker messed up his shot at matrimonial bliss with Eva Longoria.  Arnold Schwarzenegger mis-played his hand with Maria, while the Latin heat known as Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony incinerated any enthusiasm for making their marriage work.  Twitter gave us a glimpse behind the final curtain of Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore’s six year production, and Taylor Swift kept us all armed with a plethora of musical angst-filled love memoirs — courtesy of her little black book of breakups.

So which “ex factor” do Taylor Swift and Demi Moore along with a host of other stars have in common?

They can all take advantage of the clean slate that this brand new year offers by using their “exes” to attract their best relationships ever — and so can you.  Here are three tips out of my new dating handbook, Thank Goodness You Dumped His Ass—Use Those Mr. Wrongs to Lead You Straight to Mr. Right for Taylor, Demi and anyone else who’s ready to replace their chemistry experiments with a winning romantic concoction that lasts:

Related: Demi Moore Proves There’s Hope After Divorce

1. Assess who you were in your previous relationship(s) and ask yourself why you chose him/her.

Charlyism #5-1: The worse your ex was, the more important it is for you to pinpoint why you chose him [or her] and invested the effort you made.

2. Re-define what comprises an A-list mate for you, along with what you wish to experience in “your ideal relationship” so you can determine if it’s possible with those you’re dating.

Related: Amy Spencer Talks About ‘Meeting Your Half-Orange’

Charlyism #3-3: Defining the necessary ingredients for the relationship you wish to consume will prevent you from living life with a bitter aftertaste.

3. Love yourself first by using your awareness of what you’re looking for to drive your choices so the love portfolios you invest in yield big dividends in satisfaction and fulfillment.

Charlyism #3-10: Make sure you love your [partner] more than the idea of being in love with him [or her] and Charlyism #3-11: Choose to be 100% of you and single over being less than your best with a man [or woman].

Cheers to your best relationship ever.



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  • Rex

    Wow…. Great insight.  It’s nice to know the biggest actors and actresses have the same emotional issues as everyone else.
    Great to know the world has access to someone like Charly to help out with their own version of celebrity breakups.  More importantly Charly is the right alternative to finding your own multi-million dollar
    relationship.  A relationship where the investment you make in yourself yields a lifetime of gold.  Get the book, I did and it works.

    J

  • Mary

    It’s a fact that women suffer the most during break-ups. I just hope that Demi would still find herself being worthy to be loved.

  • Khim

    We all learn so much from heartbreaks. As they say, you can always see light at the end of the tunnel. So I guess there’s no better way than to move on and find happiness once again.

  • Junalyn

    Whoever hurt Taylor Swift just made her more popular. Her songs are always a hit! It just proves how almost all people can relate to her heartbreaking stories.

  • Annabelle

    Why is the world so unfair and let women suffer emotionally for a longer time after a break-up

  • Marlo

    The hospitalization of Demi Moore due to her break-up with Ashton shows how difficult it is for her what she’s actually going through. I think the media made it all worse by meddling with her private life.?

  • Lhady

    I say don’t be bitter and just be better. There’s so much to look forward in life! Move on and one day you might bump into Mr. Right.

  • Charly

    Yes Lhady, better over bitter is best. Mary you’d be surprised at how many men hurt more after a breakup than their exes… it really is about the person, who they choose and the situation.
    Taylor has mastered the ability to recycle her exes into gold —she gets the lessons and shares her experiences in ways that more than make up for any emotional deficits. Put you first by using your previous romps in romance to give you the info you need to choose a better partner and you’ll be thankful you dated and dumped his ass ; )

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