By Kimberly James
In the blockbuster film, Silver Linings Playbook, Pat Solatano, played by Bradley Cooper, seeks the counsel of a psychiatrist. After disclosing details about his dysfunctional relationship with his ex-wife, Dr. Patel offers Pat sage advice: “True love is about letting her go and seeing if she returns.”
When you still have strong emotions for an ex, it is very easy to romanticize about the past. Good memories become great and bad memories become better. The problems that you had suddenly minimize and every argument, fight or issue can be rationalized away. If you are looking at a previous relationship with rose colored glasses, you may not have unplugged your heart strings. When you are still holding on to love gone wrong, you can begin to think an unhealthy relationship was the best thing that has ever happened to you.
If you are pining over your ex, take a few notes from Silver Linings Playbook to determine if there’s something there or if it’s time to move on:
